I was Bullied by my Union Secretary, who intimidated and bullied me, and did a deal behind doors with my employer to force me to retire against my will. I was pressured into signing a letter of retirement, and consequently when I went to Fair work Australia, I had no where to go, because the employer was adamant that I signed a letter of retirement and was not sacked.
The Union secretary stabbed me in the back, whilst management knifed me in the stomach.
I know the feeling. The difference between you and I is that I am still working in the same place. Though, I have no energy to escape, I practically let them beat me down for so long. And I do not know why. I feel like I am in an abusive relationship. Now I understand better those women that take the abuse for so long.
Bullying in the workplace is no joke. As a 56 year old woman, I share this hoping someone out there will know there is hope. My life has not been easy. Once workplace employees know you are different because you will not lie, cheat, gossip, check your phone every other minute, but have been hired to work, and then they find out your practiced faith because your work ethics are different, yes, I am talking about being a believer in Christ Jesus, a real Christian, even if you have not said anything, but have been asked about it by employees, although preferring not to talk about my faith as I am at a job to work, not fool around on the job, well the bullying begins. It begins because of being convicted of their wrong doing all day long, no matter whether they get the job done. The bullies steal work time all day long from the employer and get paid. God would convict me of this even if I thought of doing what they do. In my current position, I am watched like a hawk by fellow employees, while they wait to find a way to trip me up on the the job, either by degrading me with words in front of other employees and customers, or yelling at me for no reason because I am not as fast as them.
All past job positions, I have been bullied mentally, emotionally, verbally, literally threatened face to face with other employees and reps from product cos. I've had sales stolen right out from under me thereby losing commission. Employees have literally excluded me from meetings, insisting that I like working by myself, and harassing me with questions, trying to get me to agree with them. My answers were always positive back, not answering what they wanted me to, I held my cool. I have watched other employees throw anger fits when they couldn't get to me, but that led to them saying I wouldn't help them out on the job. I have papers planted where I would see them, so I would look at them and see horible things written about me, I would put it back and call a friend on my lunch hour to share what I found only to hear that they are setting me up for failure and to write me up so they could fire me. Although I tried to handle so much of this on my own, I would find myself falling apart on my way home from work. Even the church I attended, noone wanted to get involved or help me, I am sad to say. I stayed in each position and tried to let God keep me strong and respect and pray for all these people, but I found out that I was all alone through all this, except God, He is with me through everything.
There is so much I could share, but it would take a book to do that. Without God, His strength, His guidance, I would not be here now. I also see why so many people commit suicide. Life is difficult, and the workplace bullies are getting worse, especially with the women. This has affected my income, causing me to be homeless and displaced. I will soon be leaving my position that I'm in now. My system is so run down, I need to get healthy again. I pray there are attorneys to stand in the gap for us. But I won't stop being the nice quiet woman that God is making me. No one has to be fast, loud, obnoxious, boastful, laughing all time to be hired for a position. God made me on the more serious and passionate side, to help those who go through life difficulties. The world system wants everyone to be the same. God did not make us all the same, otherwise we would be robots, look,dress, act the same. I'm starting to wonder.
Blessings to all !!!
I was happy in the work place, stressed but happy. I learned a lot in a short period of time, I was multi-tasking and keeping the show going. I felt I was respected and cherished. I was the longest employee they had ever had. New management set in and I was let go in a matter of 4 months and those last 2 months were pure misery. In total, I worked there 19 months and I know to people that is not very long but you have to understand, to them, I was keeping everything together and starting to organize a very disorganized company. When new management started, I was to fill her in on everything going on, what has been done and where things are at. At the time she tried to become my best friend and I believed in her with the owners visibly backing her and telling me to do what she says and follow her lead. She was on a pedestal as all everyone could talk about was how good of a job she was doing and how organized they were becoming but they did not seem to understand the organization came because I had worked so hard to get it there before she started working there. She had knowledge I did not have but at the same time I knew a lot she didn't. Within 2 months, just before Christmas, I found a lot of "mistakes" in her work and started to correct her and she kept brushing me off but fixing her mistake without accepting that it was her mistake. Christmas came and I was out of town for 2 weeks visiting family (they were closed anyway). I came back to a $5.00 pay cut and a 3 month probation contract with limited hours each week and no overtime while she gave herself a raise of $5.00, a free flight for 2 anywhere once a year and unlimited hours. She had worked the whole time the office was closed! I had a new list of duties which included things I had absolutely no idea what they were because she knew my strengths and my weaknesses by now. I was talked down to for not completing my tasks at hand or not doing them properly and I never got to complete much since I had so few hours but I was still responsible for answering phones, doing errands such as depositing cheques, getting the mail, fetching water bottles, parts as well as office supplies, reading and responding to emails... the normal "office work" I did before. By the end of the second month, I was laid off as my job position was terminated due to the fact that she needed someone of the same caliber as her and could work as an accountant. My boss's (as there was 2) always spoke very highly of me and talked to me every day. During the last 2 months of my employment, they never spoke to me and no one was there on my last week of employment. Once she learned what she needed to know, I was targeted to be pushed out the door. I can not get a decent reference from that place of employment and I did nothing wrong that I am aware of. I believe, my opinion ONLY, that she felt threatened by me because I had been there a while before her and I knew a lot she did not about the materials the company handled. I kept quiet about her mistakes because I wanted to learn from her as some of her knowledge was great and she had skills I did not have. In the end, perhaps because I did not speak up, they lost a very valuable employee and as I look back I realize the more work she gave me, the less I could complete and the more she talked down to me, the less I spoke completely and the harder I tried to please her. I never realized she was a bully until it was too late.
Raising Money To Sue My Cyberbully
Some guy on the internet took my photo and posted it on his website and forum. He express how much he hated me. He is spreading lies about me and he's trying to get other people to joint in the bullying. I'm standing up for myself and I refused to be a victim. I'm raising money to sue this cyberbully. If I win the lawsuit, all the money will go to charity.
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